The Gay Lifestyle

More than once when talking with a person who I wasn't out to, he or she has said, "I don't hate gay people. I just don't approve of the gay lifestyle."

The gay lifestyle.

Ugh. Makes me shudder. That is my least favorite phrase ever. Because every time I hear someone say it, I want to grab them and shake them and say what does that even mean???


Today I'm going to set out to answer the question. This is what MY gay lifestyle is.

Here are some things I do every day:

• spend too much time on the internet
• eat food that's probably bad for me
• wonder when I should schedule my next dentist appointment
• work
• sleep...sometimes too much

Here are some things I worry about:

• money
• the future
• school
• my family
• my relationship
• my friends

Here are some things I do for fun:

• play the cello
• write stories
• read books
• spend time with friends and family
• Facebook
• plan

Here are some things I want to do in the future:

• get married
• own a house
• travel around the world
• have a steady job that I love
• graduate college
• train service dogs
• write a book

Here are some things I do with my girlfriend:

• bake
• watch movies
• listen to music
• do homework
• go on dates
• eat lots of food
• cuddle

And here's the thing...I am still unsure what's so insidious about any of this. This is my lifestyle and I'm gay...so which part of this is so terrible?